How to survive on maternity leave: 5 tips for moms
Tip # 1: Be yourself.
The main reason for fatigue, irritation and stress is an attempt to follow certain mythic standards of motherhood: here is a happy, happy and well-groomed mother playing with a pink-cheeked baby, she has an ideal order at home, and dinner is already served at the time her husband arrives from work. Of course, to be perfect is simply impossible, and the more you compare yourself with other mothers - the more, in your opinion, successful, the more shortcomings you find in yourself. But you still won’t see the full picture of someone else’s reality. The best way to be a happy and good mother is to be yourself. Think about your own strengths: maybe your home is not perfect clean, but you often indulge your home with delicious pastries, or unsurpassedly come up with educational activities for the baby, or write a new fairy tale for him every day. As soon as you recognize your parental qualities, your life will become easier and more enjoyable.
Tip # 2: Time for yourself.
Many mothers are sure that the most difficult thing in motherhood is not to belong to itself. At any moment of the day or night, a child (and sometimes not one) can claim your time and attention - and you simply must respond: feed, comfort, hear, help, play
Tip # 3: Take your time and plan.
The desire to have time to do everything, everything puts you in a trap: the to-do list is getting longer, and dissatisfaction with yourself is growing. On the contrary, a little slower pace, you can better listen to yourself, choose exactly how you want to spend the day - and this will give your activity more meaning. Find 15 minutes on Sunday evening and plan the next week with your husband: include walks and attendance at children's classes, preparing lessons or a visit from your grandmother, large-scale household chores. At the same time, find out how you can help each other. In general, conduct the circumstances yourself, and do not let the circumstances conduct you!
Tip # 4: Chat with friends.
The concept of “friendship” among young mothers often goes by the wayside: firstly, there is no time to maintain relations, and secondly, interests have changed dramatically. But do not forget that girlfriends are an important source of support and joy. When you are seething with emotions, it is your beloved girlfriend who can listen to you or offer a solution. Is it hard for you to set aside time to chat with friends? Try the multitasking approach: go to fitness together, once a month invite your girlfriend to your dinner, or sometimes gather several mothers with children and invite a nanny to look after the babies.
Advice number 5: Together with the child.
Home care, caring for a baby, attention to her husband - in the bustle of life, many of us forget about our own hobbies, about things that bring joy and inspiration. But much can be done with the child. Do you like music? Dance together, learn new songs. Do you like to draw? Offer your child a large sheet of paper and paint: let him settle down next to your easel and create his own canvas. You can also do yoga or roller skating together. Do what you like - so you will help your child to get to know you better and learn how to enjoy life.
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